This month has me reflecting so
much on the past year. This time last year I was helplessly and knowingly living
my life with Cancer in my right breast. I was working toward the goal of
surgery with my surgical team, but the process was slow. It felt even slower
each time I reminded myself that this shit was trying to kill me from the
inside! I sat in countless doctor’s offices and heard stories of other women in
waiting rooms across town. Some had it better than I did, and others had it
much worse. I heard friends try to console loved ones to no avail. At times I
was happy that I was alone. Others, I was grateful to have my tribe behind me,
and either my sister-in-law or very close friend at my side.
No one prepares you for the wait
that comes with a Cancer diagnosis. Maybe it’s more of a hurry-up and wait,
which I hate worse than waiting. It goes like this; hurry up and set up this
appointment with this doctor but then wait 30 days to see them. Hurry up and
get this test completed because it is imperative to your diagnosis and treatment
plan, but you will have to wait 3-4 weeks for results. Hurry up and get the
genetic testing but it could be months before you hear on that so don’t depend
on it to make any decisions. (Yep, that happened) It leaves your head spinning,
and the Cancer notebook you created to keep track of it all, full of more
questions than answers. I later learned about people that were diagnosed
pre-pandemic and forced to sit and wait for the world to reopen so that their
Cancer could be treated. It’s crazy the situations in life that are hell yet we,
as women, consider ourselves “lucky”. Thinking of the Pandemic diagnosis people,
I was really “lucky”.
This weekend I was watching a Netflix
show called Girls in The Back about a group of friends from school. They were
assigned seats in the back of class and became The Girls in the Back. In the
intro you find out that one of the five has Cancer. They take their annual
vacation trip, all of them shave their heads and they each write down one
challenge that everyone in the group will have to complete. Their only rules
are that they don’t talk about Cancer or who has it. It is an amazing story of friendship,
and for obvious reasons, it really hit home for me. You do eventually find out
who has Cancer, and in the end, she says the exact same thing to her tribe that
I said to mine, “I’m glad it is me”. I cried like a baby watching that scene.
The current statistic is that 1 in
4 women will get Breast Cancer in their lifetime. As my tribe sat with me
through this experience, their lives continued to go on around us, as they
should. I would listen to them whisper from the waiting room to their children
at home, trying to keep their lives as normal as possible and I felt that wave
of lucky. Not just for having an amazing tribe by my side. Not even just their
little families that each made sacrifices so that they could be away from them
and be with me instead. I felt lucky that it was me and not them. I am not
married. I have no children. I live alone. The only one that depends on me is my
dog. I have the resources and the insurance to fight this fight. And sadly, I
will type this because I thought it, if someone must die from this, I want it
to be me. I’m grateful to be the 1 in 4, and I’m finally making my peace with Cancer
and what it has taught me.
#BreastCancerAwareness #1In4 #CheckYourBoobs